Releasing Resistance to Commitment

What Blocks Your Spiritual Commitment?

Resistance to commitment will stop you from practicing consistently. It results in great frustration for those wanting to practice.

Perhaps your resistance is from the past.

When you do something with passion and it really is right for you, it is right for you from your head and your heart, you are committed to it. It naturally follows that commitment is an aspect of the process.

When you resist committing to a daily practice, for example, it could be, most especially if you feel really passionate about being spiritual, feel drawn to it – it could be that commitment, the actual idea of commitment, is bringing up deep and old blocks that you have resisted looking at.

How do you release such negative feelings toward commitment?

Take the label you give to the negative feeling off. Tell yourself it is just energy; just a feeling. You can handle it. Don’t forget to breathe deeply during each part of the releasing process. Let go of the need to judge the feeling as good bad or indifferent. Let it drain out…let it release.

Now reassess your feelings around commitment

I think you will find it is much easier to commit…you are much freer. If not, repeat this helpful process until all the negative emotional energy is released.
Peace to you.

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Hello and welcome. I am Ellen Sutherland and here we are being spiritual.

I thought I would talk today about a “c” word…commitment, maybe have another look at commitment and look at it from another point of view. If you take care of all the necessary ingredients in your spiritual path around commitment, it (being committed) kind of comes along with it, like love. You do not have to do much about being love. If you focus on expressing love, all the blocks to it rise up, which is a great thing to have happen and then you become the love you are. It is the same with commitment

When you do something with complete passion and it really is right for you; it is right for you from your head and your heart; you are committed to it. It naturally follows that commitment is there. If you find that you are not committed, that you are resistant to it – it could be, most especially if you feel really passionate about being spiritual, drawn to it – it could be that commitment, the actual idea of commitment, will bring up deep and old blocks that you have resisted looking at.

What does it make you feel like? You think, “Oh I have to be really committed to this or really vigilant about doing this work. I’m really going to do it” and in the next second you have forgotten it. You put it on your schedule, you looked at your schedule, but you didn’t practice it. So what does that mean? What (block) is there? What is in there that is resisted?

You do not have to fight yourself if you find yourself in resistance. It is quite fun to just notice the energy. Notice it. It feels like you do not want to be committed to this practice. Say that today you intended to sit down and have your 20 minute meditation, and you want to do it, all your friends do it. You think it is right for you to do it but everything in your being is pushing against such commitment. I would say that is an old block and has nothing to do with your love of spirituality and your practice of being a spiritual person. It has to do with some other wound that you are holding on to.

So. Take that energy, that resistant, “I don’t want to do this. I don’t want to be blocked in. I don’t want to be committed to something all the time,” energy, take that energy and just be with it. Take a deep breath and just be with it. Don’t resist it. There it is. That is the energy you do not like. Maybe take the label off now. Don’t call it resistance to commitment. Refer to it as this particular feeling when I think about practicing meditation. Take another deep breath. Just be with that feeling. Let go of the judgment. Just let go of the judgment. This is just a feeling. You don’t have to decide if it is good or bad, rather this is the feeling you get when you decide to commit to something. Take another deep breath. Notice how much freer you feel? You are not fighting that resistance. You are not guilt tripping yourself, you are just being with that energy. You are letting it release out of you.

This is the release technique we are using from my book At Your Heart’s Pace (AYHP), is a technique that really really works. You have taken the label off. You have stopped resisting it. You are fine with having this feeling and are letting it just drain away. Breathe… you can handle this feeling. You can handle it. It doesn’t matter, it is merely a feeling. Just let it go. So just let it go.

Now go back to thinking about doing the practice. Without the heavy resistant feeling, committing to a practice may reveal itself as not your right practice, or you may now find that you can just do it. You can sit down and do your 20 minutes for the (negative) energy around being committed has fallen way. You’ve let it go. You have released it and that is spiritual evolution. That means your next practice time will be less negative. You won’t want to avoid it, because you can handle this (resistant) feeling. This feeling of resistance is literally some past piece that you haven’t dealt with. The more you resist it, the bigger it gets.

So take the label off. Tell yourself it is just energy, just a feeling. You can handle it. Don’t forget to breathe. Stop judging the feeling as good bad or indifferent and just let it drain out…let it release. And then have a look at your feelings around commitment. I think you will find it is much easier to commit…you are much freer. If it isn’t, just repeat this process. It is very helpful.

Peace to you.

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Ellen Sutherland shares her work through her sites: http://www.beingspiritual.com, http://www.ellensutherland.com and her book: "At Your Heart's Pace",
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