Looking Inside for What You Have to Give

To Give, You Must First Have

“To give, you must first have.” is this week’s contemplation. It seems a very obvious thing to state. In this world, if you are going to give somebody a present, you must first have the gift, before you can give it. Though the focus of the contemplation is of “mental” giving, the same rule applies. To offer a thought to someone, it first must be in your mind before you can give it. You have to have it to give it. It must come from you. Even though someone else triggers the thought, you are the source.

We want to make the outside world our “cause” and thus its “effect” becomes its responsibility. That stance is easy for the negative situations – you can be quite comfortable with other people or situations making you upset, but what about the love. What about those loving thoughts don’t they come from the same place?

This contemplation has great power: “To give, you must first have.” I invite you to watch yourself and notice what you give and where it source is located. I invite you to consider taking ownership of your mood, your state of mind. Consider letting go of blaming the world for what is really going on inside of you. Consider that you have the power to change what you give it.

Peace to you.

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To Give, You Must First Have

Hello. I am Ellen Sutherland and here we are, being spiritual.

I thought I would carry on with an idea that I think I have spoken about way back, months ago…about contemplation. I thought it might be fun to pull a contemplation phrase out and see what happens when we play with it, when we work with it, when we use it.

The one I thought that would be really quite powerful is, “To give, you must first have.” Now that is a very obvious thing to say. In our world, if you are going to give somebody a birthday present, first of all you have the gift, wrapped up or not wrapped up; you have to have the gift, before you can give it. This is not really what the focus is here. The focus is if you have a loving thought that you are offering to someone, or if you have joy that you are offering to someone, or are extending, or if you have anger and any of the negative feelings, it first must be in your self before you can give it. You have to have it to give it.

So that is a contemplation that takes you in a lot of directions. Somebody cuts you off in traffic, and you feel so angry at them, so upset with them, and you think, to give that anger, to give that upsetness, I first must have had it inside of me. It must already have been there.

You know that is true because there are times when somebody cuts you off in a line, or butts in – any of those things – and many, many, many times you just look at them and let it happen… it is of no consequence. And then, there are those times when you are in traffic or somebody cuts you off and it is of consequence. Thinking about the fact that the anger was already present, is a very helpful thing. To extend that anger, to give it, it must already have been present within you. You take ownership of your mood, your state of mind. You can’t blame that other person or that other situation for what is really going on inside of you.

It is also great when you find that you are filled with a wonderful state of peace or love or joy or all three of them together, for when you are filled with that, you realize that you are just radiating it like the sun radiates light and heat. You radiate it. So that means, to give it, to give it off, to extend it, it must already be inside of you.

That is a wonderful contemplation. Just be with it- to give you must have, you must first have it. To realize that the times you have been upset, the times you have been triggered by someone, you must already have had the state within you, for that to come out of you.

At the same time, and I have seen this a lot in Reiki, when someone comes for a Reiki session they are upset over some big, deep trauma or some major thing happening in their life – they are feeling very sad. They get Reiki. You put your hands all over their body and give them Reiki energy and balance them out, it balances them out . Then they just exude a sweet peacefulness. Well I didn’t give them peacefulness. Reiki didn’t give them peacefulness. All Reiki did was balance and clear out the fog bank that was overtop of the true state of the person; the true state that we all carry.

Think about this. Watch yourself during the week. Notice. We want to make the outside world our “cause” and then the “effect” is not something we take ownership of. That is fine for the negative beliefs – everyone is quite comfortable with that, but what about the love that you are? What about the love that you are?

The negative state and the love is already present for you to give it. What you want to get rid of is all that negativity, just release it. Own it as yours and let it go. Let it go so that the inner darkness is moved out and…and…what rises up, that you give and radiate, just by being yourself, is already present.

To give it, you must have it.

I hope that is helpful.

Peace to you.

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Ellen Sutherland shares her work through her sites: http://www.beingspiritual.com, http://www.ellensutherland.com and her book: "At Your Heart's Pace",
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