Forgiveness Mentoring

Personal Freedom through Forgiveness

We begin today by pumping up our energy and affirming: “Yes,yes,yes,” in order to find the strength to begin to face the idea of forgiving our past.

Forgiveness offers us the key to release the burdens of sadness, guilt, anger, and victim hood. These emotions are stored up inside of us when we hold negativity toward our self and/or others.

We can carry great negativity about past actions and situations. These are held in our psyche, our unconscious, and our conscious minds. It does not occur to us that releasing the past, letting it go, will enhance the quality of our life. It will release us from our self-made, inner jails.

I recommend using A Course In Miracles, a year long course focusing on forgiveness. I also recommend my book: At Your Heart’s Pace which is brimming with helpful exercises and tools that assist you in your working with forgiveness issues.

A helpful first step toward taking action about forgiving, is to ponder the importance of letting the past go. Contemplating this will bring you the particular issues you need to address in order to free your self from the past.

Much of my work with others as a mentor involves forgiveness issues. As spiritual students, we cannot carry a burden of guilt or sadness and expect to experience peace and joy.

When you find it difficult to let go of the past, consider doing some mentoring work with me. Go to my Spiritual Mentoring page.

Peace to you.

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Hello and welcome. I am Ellen Sutherland and here we are being spiritual.

We are doing our “yes, yes, yes” (See: blog post How to Change your State of Mind and Emotion). We are doing our “yes, yes, yes,” because today I want to talk about something people mostly avoid which is forgiveness – letting go of the past – letting go of their guilt – letting go of their sadness about how someone should have been and wasn’t; how they should have been and weren’t and, what to do about it. What do you do about these states? Well most people (I did it for years) stick their head in the sand. My way was that I stuck my face in a book. I read and read. I hid away in stories and novels.

But eventually you have to pay the piper. Eventually you are faced with the situations. The person comes back into your life, or they die and you can’t make it up to them anymore. Somebody else just like them, or worse, comes into your life and is in your face and there is the issue that you have held in your heart as a wound.

There is a person who doesn’t love you, just the way your father didn’t love you. There’s is a person who acts just like the one you loved and got away acted and, they are still getting away. Whatever your wound is – we have a myriad of possible hurts and guilt stuck in our psyche.

So what do you do about them? Maybe it is time. Maybe the piper is playing in your background and you have decided to live a spiritual life and everything you’ve pushed away is coming up. Everything is coming up in your face. It is as if your whole life has been turned upside down on to the carpet. There it is, all that you did not face. It can be quite a devastating time. It is actually a really exciting time too, once you get to it.

Let’s look at forgiveness. What do you do. How do you deal with forgiveness issues? I have been in A Course In Miracles for many years. It is a year-long course where you basically work with the idea that you are already perfect. So the idea of Enlightenment which is what Realized masters tell us, once they become Enlightened and Realized, that we are already perfect and we just didn’t know it. That is why it is called “realization.” This focus is the same with ACIM. The idea is that you are already perfect. It uses the Atonement principle, which is the principle that you give out the truth to another person – you see their perfection. That giving eventually works in you until you realize, huh! there is nothing wrong (with me), I am innocent too. As I see your innocence, I find my innocence.

That (ACIM) is one thing that I’ve done. I’ve also worked for years and years releasing energetically with Reiki. I do Reiki, I teach it now. So I work with people encouraging them to get into the Course. Some like it, it is Christian based, some do not into that being Buddhist and agnostics…people that have not a faith, per se, still have all sorts of issues, all sorts of forgiveness problems, if you like, eating at their hearts.

Also I wrote a book: At Your Heart’s Pace. It has many, many exercises to help you have a look at what is stopping and what is blocking – addressing a lot of work in that area. I offer a lot of tools to people because I know what it is like, I know what it is like to have forgiveness issues, to have stuff from your past eating at you – being the lens through which you see the world. The lens through which you doubt someone really loving you because you have this belief in being awful to someone else. You believe that they will never forgive you so how could you be loveable?

We hold a lot of that “stuff” in our psyche, in our unconscious and our conscious minds. We believe it so firmly that it doesn’t occur to us that releasing, releasing the past, letting it go, will change it.

Yes! Yes! Yes! and that we can be happy – that we are happy. It is our basic nature. So that’s what I do. My mentoring is about helping people have a look at the past. It is exciting work, exciting work.

But if you are not into mentoring or having someone help you decide which areas to release from your past, which forgiveness issues, at least make your self a list, write them out. Gary Craig did this; suggested this. Write out a list of everything that bugs you. Those are all forgiveness issues. Then to resolve them, I have lots of tapping videos on my site and some surrendering and releasing as well and there are all sorts of tools in my book At Your Heart’s Pace… or you could just call me for a session.

But work it out. Find out – discover – where your joy is, where your peace is, where your freedom is when you let go of even one forgiveness issue. Even letting go of one of them will make a big difference in your life.

My whole intention is to assist in bringing more peace – forgiving the past will do that.

Peace to you.

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Spiritual Path? Or Spiritual Growth?

What We Call a Path is Spiritual Evolution

There is no path. Yet as we progress, as we evolve, as we go along, those are the words used to describe what we are doing.

In our mind, it seems like we are following a path, a linear kind of thing, as step-by-step, a foot before a foot kind of situation. Yet it isn’t a path we are on, it is an experience of application. The spiritual path is about application.

Think about how a plant grows. You take the seed. You apply certain conditions – the right soil mixture, the right water mixture, the right temperature for it and that seed starts to soften and open and split and grow. It grows because it takes from the environment and becomes completely different expression of itself. Such growth is a magical occurrence that happens all the time around us. That kind of evolution is exactly what our spiritual path is like.

It is about applying, how do you apply? How do you do these spiritual things? What do you do?
There is lots of information. It can be very confusing sorting through it. What I do as a mentor is to help you discover what you want and where you want to go.

Consider what you want on your spiritual “path.” If you require assistance, I am here.

Peace to you.

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Hello I am Ellen Sutherland and here we are being spiritual. Being Spiritual, what on earth is a spiritual path. It always makes me think when I hear the phrase – I use it a lot – it makes me think of the meridian system in the body. The energetic system is really a number of points all over the body. Each point has a number of points related to it and attached to an organ system and to the chakra system as well. Each one is attached in such a way and so close together, that people have drawn lines, like made a map of it. So there is a line, this meridian line, the lung line, liver line, pancreas line, and they are not really lines.

So… spiritual path. There is no path. Yet as you progress, as you evolve, as you go along, those are the words we use and in our mind it seems like we are following a path, a linear kind of thing, as step-by-step, a foot before a foot, kind of situation. It isn’t a path (we are on) it is an actual experience of application. The spiritual path is about application.

So how do you apply these things; how do you do these things; what do you do? It is all out there. There is lots and lots of information these days. It can be very confusing. I am actually glad that I didn’t start my path now, although it is a wonderful time of spiritual growth right now. Many, many more people interested in it, and moving toward light. There I go saying “moving toward” – evolving is really what I mean.

Think about how a plant grows. You take the seed. You apply certain conditions – the right soil mixture, the right water mixture, the right temperature for it and that seed starts to soften and open and split and grow…kind of magically grow because it takes stuff from the environment and becomes completely different. Such growth is a magical occurrence that happens all the time around us. That kind of evolution is exactly what our spiritual path is like.

We decide to focus on being a better person. “There must be a better way.” we think. “I want a better way to live life.” That is the seed decision and from that honest decision, from that willingness, that state of willingness, we are more open to other things in life. Maybe we want to be more peaceful. Maybe we want to get rid of the past junk that we carry – some of the hurts in our heart. Maybe we want to experience some of the things we have read about. Things like enlightened experiences, joyous experiences. Whatever tweaks us, whatever drives us, we begin to move toward, and evolve toward and grow into more awareness, more lovingness, more peace, more understanding, more willingness to change, more willingness to give others a break. We are more willing to give our self a break. We become soft, and open, and we grow. We evolve. That is the spiritual path. So it is not really a one foot in front of another process that we do. It can only look that way, most especially as we look at it in time.

It thought it would be helpful to think about a spiritual path perhaps in a different way than “I’m on the path.” The Zen people have wonderful saying such as “If you see Buddha on the road, kill him.” They are asking you to look within and not without. Sometimes you may need a helper and that is what I am about. I am a mentor. I certainly have had a lot of helpers and still have a lot of helpers in my life. Sometimes you need a mentor. Sometimes you need just a little boost up, a little Miracle Grow used for house plants. Sometimes you need a little Miracle Grow and that’s what I am about.

But in regard to your spiritual path, I am so glad you are considering it or that you are on it. I wish you great peace. I wish you great success in releasing what stops you from realizing what you already are, a full-blown perfect expression of Divinity, of Light of “Allness.” Whatever the words you use, once you experience a taste of it, you do not need the words anymore.

Peace to you.

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Watching the Mind

A Cure for Thinking?

watchingIt seems odd that you live with a constant stream of thoughts flowing through your head, yet rarely notice what they are saying and whether or not you believe them. Millions upon millions of thoughts flow through your mind. It is a shock to realize you give the thought-stream absolute authority over your whole life experience.

Mental Virus

When you do not examine your mind, it is as if you have a mental virus which fills you with a barrage of words and symbols and meanings that trigger emotions, which in turn flood through your body.

It may seem to be an exaggeration to say that thoughts are a potentially lethal disease, that believing them or not examining them, is hazardous to your health. A bit of observation will clearly reveal this as true.

Whether you notice what you are thinking, or just react to all the thoughts flowing from your mind, the medicine necessary to relieve the stress and suffering arising from your thoughts, begins with a willingness to take a step back, a willingness to observe them.

Try to stop them

stop thinkingHave you ever tried to stop your thoughts? Try now. Bear with me. Take a moment, close your eyes and tell your mind to stop thinking. Demand it obey you. How did you do? No way does it stop. You  do not control thought. Thinking is apparently an aspect of consciousness. As soon as you wake, thinking begins. Did you decide to think when you woke this morning? Hmm.

Notice That You Believe What You Think

When you first begin to watch your thoughts, it becomes more and more obvious that you are not what you think. It becomes clear that you certainly have thoughts, but they are not what you are. You are that which is watching them!

Observing the streaming mind gives you a chance to notice what is moving through your consciousness, rather than what you usually do, which is to believe and to react to them.

Such observation allows you enough of a pause to recognize that your thoughts are common and almost never unique. No matter the age, race, economic condition, your “I want….I need…I can’t…I should…I am…I have…,” reflect a universal litany.

angelNotice that you believe utterly in the thoughts you think. You believe they are uniquely yours. So certain are you that to stand back from thoughts, to examine them, never occurs to you. I would like to offer you the opportunity to realize how hypnotized you are to the belief in what you think. Then to realize that you can release a judgment, a memory, and a fear. When you do, freedom awaits. Often the babble you are listening to is absurd, exaggerated, or simply made up from supposition, from guessing how another is feeling.

Is there a cure?

Is there a cure? Yes! Observe your thoughts, all your thoughts; the good bad and the indifferent thoughts. Notice any and all that flow through the mind. Watching them is simply a matter of willingness and habit. Doing so changes the quality of your consciousness. Gradually it will dawn on you to ask, “Who or what is it that is observing the thoughts?”

The second part of the cure, the next thing to do, to is to extract yourself from being at the mercy of what you are watching. Examine and compare what you think you should and must experience, with what actually is and does happen. What is true? Do you really know all your assumptions to be true? Can you know what another is feeling and thinking? Under such calm observation, your attachment to your life events, even your history, changes dramatically.

Do thoughts have the power to keep you in fear, in anticipation, in dread? Do thoughts have such power or have you given them that power?  I invite you to watch them in order to reveal whether they do or do not. My telling you this will is not be the same as you having a personal experience. So I invite you to take your medicine. Take the prescription. Stand back from and observe your thoughts. It is the cure for all that ails you.

Clarity automatically unravels confusion

You will begin to feel better right away. You will become more and more self-honest. You will begin to be more and more comfortable with “what is” instead of being caught in the “what should.” You will begin to love “what is” for it sets you free.

Freeing yourself from your thoughts brings up a half forgotten feeling of a bubbling inner excitement. A joy begins to rise up within you. Such joy has nothing to do with any outer event. Truth brings freedom. Freedom from all your tragic “tales” about how your life was, is, should be – as well as how the events were and are right now.

Discover clarity

When you observe your thoughts and question their reality, the power you give them gradually, but consistently dissolves – as shadows do when illuminated by light.

What is left when you disengage from the thought stream you once allows to enslaved you? Try it and discover clarity for yourself.

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Peace to you.

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